http://forums.thinkarete.com/forums/the-big-ideas/topics/stephen-covey-emotional-bank-deposits en-us 60 <p>In his seminal book, &ldquo;Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,&rdquo; Stephen Covey describes a process of making deposits into an &ldquo;emotional bank account&rdquo; with those you love.</p><p>The six major types of deposits that build the Emotional Bank Account:</p><ul> <li> <p><strong>Understanding the Individual.</strong> Few people actually take the time to listen to and understand someone. Be one of those people. Slow down. Seek to understand.</p> </li></ul><ul> <li> <p><strong>Attending to Little Things.</strong> Do you consistently do the little things to show your love? Little forms of disrespect are large withdrawals. Make little deposits of kindness all the time.</p> </li></ul><ul> <li> <p><strong>Keeping Commitments.</strong> Keep your Account high by honoring your commitments. One of the easiest ways to make huge withdrawals is to <em>not </em>keep your word.</p> </li></ul><ul> <li> <p><strong>Clarifying Expectations.</strong> A cause of most relationship challenges is rooted in conflicting or ambiguous expectations around roles and goals. Take the time to clarify.</p> </li></ul><ul> <li> <p><strong>Showing Personal Integrity.</strong> Integrity includes but goes beyond honesty. Do your actions truly line up with your words? Be integrated. Make big deposits.</p> </li></ul><ul> <li> <p><strong>Apologizing Sincerely When You Make a Withdrawal. </strong>Learn how to say &ldquo;I was wrong. I&rsquo;m deeply sorry.&rdquo; It takes a huge amount of character to apologize sincerely and quickly. Do it.</p> </li></ul><p>Here&rsquo;s to being Emotional Bank Account billionaires. :)</p> Fri, 11 Jan 2008 22:43:14 -0000 forums.thinkarete.com:503:229:229 brian http://forums.thinkarete.com/forums/503/topics/229