#54. Eat Your Projections replied by tc @ Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:10:44 -0000

tc — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:10:44 -0000

It’s funny you bring this up. I’ve noticed a by-product of my attempt to get better mileage on the way to work in the morning has actually cut down on my tendency towards road-rage toward the other drivers.

1. My focus is on my own driving – less agressively.
2. Since I’m driving a bit slower, people are less likely to be going slower than I am when they cut me off! I don’t have to slam on the breaks.
3. It’s also easier to maintain a safe distance between my front bumper and the cars ahead of me.
4. The result – increased my average gas mileage from 22 MPG to 25 MPG – a small victory, sure, but a good one. Better yet, I seem to arrive at work in much better spirits and ready to give cheerful attention to my job.
5. So by changing my driving habits (regardless of the reason) I’ve stumbled onto a solution to a more stressful problem I’ve lived with for a long, my reaction to others on the highway. Happy motoring!

#54. Eat Your Projections replied by brian @ Fri, 11 Jan 2008 22:43:09 -0000

brian — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 22:43:09 -0000

Want to get full real fast?

Just learn to eat your projections.

Let’s say you’re criticizing someone. (Hypothetically, of course. :))

I’ll be the example: In my less enlightened moments (still tragically too often), I find myself criticizing my Goddess about not doing something she committed to doing (like meditating, getting up early, or something like that).

Now, here’s the funny thing: When *I* am doing those things, I never criticize her. It’s only when I’m not living my life fully that I give her a hard time.

So, what I’m doing is projecting my own shit onto her. Not cool. (Seriously. Projecting our shit on anyone just isn’t cool, wouldn’t you agree? :))

The secret: whatever we’re criticizing someone about has nothing to do with them and everything to do with us.

The rule: don’t put your projections on other people. Eat ‘em. Yum.

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#54. Eat Your Projections replied by tc @ Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:10:44 -0000

#54. Eat Your Projections replied by brian @ Fri, 11 Jan 2008 22:43:09 -0000